Testing together: How couple testing can strengthen relationships and HIV prevention

Have you ever had ‘the talk’ with your partner? Not about exes, what to watch on TV or where to go for your next date. But about getting tested for HIV together? Couple testing builds trust. It helps both partners feel safe and supported. It is a step you can take together - for your health and your relationship. 

Why testing together matters 

Research shows that in Sub-Saharan Africa, couple counselling helps partners talk more openly. It also supports safer sex and lowers HIV transmission. When you test alone, the results only apply to you. But you and your partner can have different HIV statuses, even if you have been having sex without a condom. That’s why it is important to test together. It’s a good idea to get tested at the start of a new relationship, and regularly after that. HIV testing should be part of your normal health routine. If you’re having sex or sharing needles, testing helps protect both you and your partner. 

Many couples feel scared, nervous or unsure about testing together. These feelings are normal and valid. What matters is choosing to face them together as a couple. Testing should be seen as an act of care, not suspicion. Some people fear that sharing their HIV status could lead to rejection or hurt the relationship. You can’t always control how someone reacts. But know this, most negative reactions come from not understanding HIV. Even if your results are different, it does not mean the relationship is over. There are options, like PrEP, that help you stay safe and support each other. 

Taking control of your sexual health 

Testing as a couple is proactive. It is also empowering. But starting the conversation is not always easy. Here are some gentle ways to bring it up: 

• "I care about us, and I think testing together is a step we can take for our future." 
• "Have you ever thought about us going for an HIV test together? I think it could be a good way to take care of each other." 
• "I’ve been learning more about HIV testing, and it made me think-what if we did it together? It could help us feel even more secure in our relationship." 

Testing together is more than just knowing your status. It’s a sign of trust and care. Talk to your partner. Visit a clinic together. And explore more on Be in the Know to protect your health together.