It is very normal to feel worried about telling someone you have an STI. Here are some tips that might help:
• Remember that having an STI is a health issue and says nothing about you, try to remain calm and positive – you are doing the responsible thing and most STIs are easily treated.
• Make sure you know the facts. It will be a much easier conversation to have if you feel confident and knowledgeable about the infection. Be ready to answer any questions your partner might have and reassure them that there are treatments and ways to protect yourself and each other. It might feel a little awkward, but it’s an important conversation to have.
• Work out what you want to say before you talk to your partner. You can even practice in front of the mirror or with a trusted friend, that way you will feel more confident when talking with your partner.
• Pick a time when both of you are relaxed and feel most at ease, choose a place with no distractions and where you won’t be interrupted.
• Remember that you cannot control their reaction, they might want time alone or they might take the news well. However they react, you have done the right thing. Given a little more time, most partners will respect you for telling them.
• If you do not feel safe telling your past or present partner, there may be other ways for them to get the information, talk to your healthcare professional as they should be able to offer advice.