Video: Talking about HIV

Fast facts

Here are a few things to think about so you can feel prepared for talking about HIV with a partner.

• Remember that you don’t have anything to apologise for, simply because you have HIV.
• Before you talk to your partner it can help to have some information on hand to share with them. They may think that HIV means you don’t have long to live, or that you won’t be able to have sex safely in future, or have a family. If you can help them to understand the facts about HIV, and reassure them, they are less likely to react negatively.
• Think about the best time to tell them – a time when they won’t be rushing somewhere and are less likely to be stressed.
• Find a place where you are unlikely to be interrupted so you can take your time. Give them time to take in what you’re saying. Check they understand and offer to answer any questions they have.
• Whatever your partner’s reaction is at first, be aware that reactions can change over time.
• If you’ve had unprotected sex with your partner, it’s important for them to get tested. Once they know their status you can decide the best way to practice safer sex together in the future.
• Fear and stigma can stir up very strong emotions. Be prepared that your status may make some people afraid or judgmental. Remember that you are still you, and your status doesn’t define you.

And remember…

• Talking to a friend or family member you trust about your HIV status can help you process your thoughts and emotions. Keeping it all to yourself can make you feel isolated.
• You should never feel pressured into disclosing your status to anyone you don’t trust. If you have recently found out you are HIV-positive, it may be worth taking some time to take in the news yourself, so you are better prepared to tell others.