Healthy relationships are about respect, honesty, trust and communication. They should make you feel good about yourself and the other person.
All healthy relationships have ups and downs. Learning how to talk openly and move through the downs together can make your relationship stronger.
There are no set rules when it comes to finding out what type of relationship will work for you. But violence, abuse, controlling behaviour and other toxic traits are never part of a healthy relationship.
There are many types of relationships – which may or may not include sex. You may be married, living together, in a long-distance relationship, a casual relationship or an open relationship. A healthy relationship is based on you and your partner(s) being comfortable with the choices made and behaviours within the relationship.
While relationships may vary, healthy ones are usually based on respect, honesty, trust and communication.
Most long-term relationships go through some or all of these stages: infatuation, disagreements and power struggles, accepting and appreciating each other’s differences, and understanding our own behaviour.
But relationships don’t move through these stages in order. Think of them as going in cycles. You can be in any one or more of the stages at any time, but it is important to try to learn from previous cycles.
Talking honestly and openly as you move through these stages can lead to stability, commitment and contentment, and are signs of a healthy relationship.
There are some things that should never exist in a relationship.
The following signs will help you identify if you are in an abusive relationship (sometimes called a toxic relationship):
Your partner is:
You are:
Recognising you’re being abused or in a toxic relationship is often the hardest step. The next thing is to tell someone. Think of a friend, relative or teacher who will be supportive and can help you work out what support is available to you. Looking online for support or calling a helpline are good places to start. A healthcare professional or counsellor can also offer confidential advice.
Power dynamics and communication challenges are something all couples face. But as a gay man you may face some extra hurdles.
Read our blog post for five tips to make sure your relationships are as hot, steamy and healthy as they can be!
Most of us will struggle with mental health at some point in our lives. But it’s not always easy to know if you are experiencing a mental health issue, or what to do about it if you are.
Looking after our mental health can play a big role in supporting healthy relationships.
Whereas if we are in an unhealthy relationship it can have a negative impact on our mental health. If you find your relationship is causing you issues such as stress and anxiety, it may well be a red flag that you are in an unhealthy relationship.
Read our tips on how to look after your mental health, spot signs of mental health issues, and take steps to deal with them.
Here are a few questions to help kick-off discussions on the issues you need to talk about! You can share them on social, on WhatsApp or just get talking.
Here are some tips for discussing issues with your partner:
when it’s your turn to talk, be as honest and clear as you can
ask questions to show that you’re considering your partners’ view
give the other person space to speak – good communication is about talking and listening
use ‘I’ rather than ‘you’. For example: “I feel left out when you don’t include me”, instead of “You always leave me out of conversations”.
Deciding whether to have sex is a personal decision. In a healthy relationship, you should respect one another’s decisions about sex, whatever stage you’re at. Remember that both you and your partner need to want and consent to sex.
Feeling pressured to have sex with your partner or pressuring them to have sex is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.
If you decide you want to have sex it’s important to understand how to protect yourself and your partner from unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections and HIV.
It can be hard to know if and when to end a relationship. If you’ve tried to talk things through with your partner and still feel upset a lot of the time, it could be a sign that your relationship has run its course.
If someone tells you they are being abused or describes traits of a toxic relationship, listen to them and don’t judge. Help them think through their options. These situations can be complicated. You don't have to have all the answers, but it's important that the person knows that you are there for them and will support them.
If you suspect that someone is in an unhealthy relationship, find a gentle way of asking them about it. Often, people in toxic relationships find it hard to talk. They may believe that it's their fault or feel embarrassed about how they are treated.
It's important that you take someone seriously if they tell you about problems in their relationship. Avoid saying things that might suggest it's their fault or you don’t believe them.
You can't force someone to leave a bad relationship – it’s their decision to make. Leaving an abusive partner can be frightening. If this is what they decide they want to do, it's better if other people are involved, so that together you can help keep the person safe. Encourage them to identify other people that they trust and are happy to tell.
There are many types of relationships – which may or may not include sex. You may be married, living together, in a long-distance relationship, a casual relationship or an open relationship. A healthy relationship is based on you and your partner(s) being comfortable with the choices made and behaviours within the relationship.
While relationships may vary, healthy ones are usually based on respect, honesty, trust and communication.
Most long-term relationships go through some or all of these stages: infatuation, disagreements and power struggles, accepting and appreciating each other’s differences, and understanding our own behaviour.
But relationships don’t move through these stages in order. Think of them as going in cycles. You can be in any one or more of the stages at any time, but it is important to try to learn from previous cycles.
Talking honestly and openly as you move through these stages can lead to stability, commitment and contentment, and are signs of a healthy relationship.
There are some things that should never exist in a relationship.
The following signs will help you identify if you are in an abusive relationship (sometimes called a toxic relationship):
Your partner is:
You are:
Recognising you’re being abused or in a toxic relationship is often the hardest step. The next thing is to tell someone. Think of a friend, relative or teacher who will be supportive and can help you work out what support is available to you. Looking online for support or calling a helpline are good places to start. A healthcare professional or counsellor can also offer confidential advice.
Power dynamics and communication challenges are something all couples face. But as a gay man you may face some extra hurdles.
Read our blog post for five tips to make sure your relationships are as hot, steamy and healthy as they can be!
Most of us will struggle with mental health at some point in our lives. But it’s not always easy to know if you are experiencing a mental health issue, or what to do about it if you are.
Looking after our mental health can play a big role in supporting healthy relationships.
Whereas if we are in an unhealthy relationship it can have a negative impact on our mental health. If you find your relationship is causing you issues such as stress and anxiety, it may well be a red flag that you are in an unhealthy relationship.
Read our tips on how to look after your mental health, spot signs of mental health issues, and take steps to deal with them.
Here are a few questions to help kick-off discussions on the issues you need to talk about! You can share them on social, on WhatsApp or just get talking.
Here are some tips for discussing issues with your partner:
when it’s your turn to talk, be as honest and clear as you can
ask questions to show that you’re considering your partners’ view
give the other person space to speak – good communication is about talking and listening
use ‘I’ rather than ‘you’. For example: “I feel left out when you don’t include me”, instead of “You always leave me out of conversations”.
Deciding whether to have sex is a personal decision. In a healthy relationship, you should respect one another’s decisions about sex, whatever stage you’re at. Remember that both you and your partner need to want and consent to sex.
Feeling pressured to have sex with your partner or pressuring them to have sex is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.
If you decide you want to have sex it’s important to understand how to protect yourself and your partner from unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections and HIV.
It can be hard to know if and when to end a relationship. If you’ve tried to talk things through with your partner and still feel upset a lot of the time, it could be a sign that your relationship has run its course.
If someone tells you they are being abused or describes traits of a toxic relationship, listen to them and don’t judge. Help them think through their options. These situations can be complicated. You don't have to have all the answers, but it's important that the person knows that you are there for them and will support them.
If you suspect that someone is in an unhealthy relationship, find a gentle way of asking them about it. Often, people in toxic relationships find it hard to talk. They may believe that it's their fault or feel embarrassed about how they are treated.
It's important that you take someone seriously if they tell you about problems in their relationship. Avoid saying things that might suggest it's their fault or you don’t believe them.
You can't force someone to leave a bad relationship – it’s their decision to make. Leaving an abusive partner can be frightening. If this is what they decide they want to do, it's better if other people are involved, so that together you can help keep the person safe. Encourage them to identify other people that they trust and are happy to tell.
