This is the single most important thing to ask yourself before you decide to get down to it. You might want to know how to please your partner but it's more important to be sure that you’re happy and confident with the idea of having sex – and that your partner is on the same page as you.
It’s totally normal to be nervous before having sex for the first time! That said, it’s good to check that you’re not confusing nerves with simply not really being ready to have sex.
Also, try not to worry or feel rushed if your friends say they’ve had sex. It’s best to wait until it feels like the right situation for you.
Feeling unsure? Read our guide to knowing if you’re ready to have sex – it can help make it clear in your own mind.
Even if you decide you’re ready for sex, remember: people change their minds all the time and you can too – especially for something as personal as sex.
If, after thinking about it, you're sure you’re ready to get busy, think about what protection you might want to use. It might seem like a small detail, but many people find that being prepared makes the first time more relaxed. Condoms protect you from sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and unwanted pregnancy.
Also, people might not tell you this, but the first time can be a bit awkward, clunky and even slightly painful. So if your first time isn’t earth-shattering, don’t stress – the fun is in exploring!