Foreplay is all about exploring what turns you on and what doesn’t. As long as you and your partner consent, foreplay can be anything you want.
The main thing to remember is that you do not have to go straight into anything physical – foreplay is all about the build-up! Here are some things you could try to get the mood going.
There are things you can do to build the anticipation of spending some intimate time together. You could leave a note that lets them know you are looking forward to things getting steamy later, or tell them on the phone.
IF you are both into it, you could sext. This is when you send sexy messages or photos. If you send pictures there is a risk they will get shared with other people. Some people only send pictures of their body so their face is not in them, but there is still a risk you could be identified. Depending on your age, sexting can also be illegal.
Once you are together, things like lighting, food, music and dancing together can help set the mood. Eye contact can be a big turn on. So can bodily contact, whether it’s holding their hand, brushing their leg or your bodies getting closer together.
Starting to get physical
Kissing can be a huge turn on. How you do it is up to you – long and deep, with or without tongues, with some lip sucking and biting. Try things out and see what works.
If you are both feeling turned on, you may want to take things further. You could do this by rubbing or grinding up against each other in the way you might during sex, but with some or all of your clothes on. Other things you can try are massage or having a bath or a shower together. You may want to masturbate in front of each other or use your hands to stimulate each other’s genitals.